I have met a few people who think marriage is easy. But those conversations are rare. Count-on-one-hand-and-still-have-fingers-left rare. Most people I meet who are willing to get vulnerable reveal something that tends to be more universal than unique -- marriage is hard. Worth it, yes. Rich with possibilities, yes. Designed by the Creator of the …
Adulterous Affairs Don’t Begin with Sleeping Together; They Begin with Inappropriate Friendships
It seems that far too often when a spouse becomes close to a member of the opposite sex, other than their spouse, it begins to place them on a slippery slope. In our years of counseling we have seen the results of what occurs when it was initially shared to a spouse, “We are just …
Results from the Intimacy Poll
Well, the results are in. For the month of November we ran an intimacy poll to see where married couples fall into the frequency of sexual activity. We asked the following question: "Barring medical or reasons due to travel or distance, how often do you and your spouse have sex?" Kerry and I were amazed …
“Who are you serving?” Date Night
I realize that many of us are on a tight budget; however, we can all think of ways that we could bless another family or couple this Christmas season. Here is our idea this week. Plan a date time together that you can devote at least an hour of uninterrupted time together. Budget some money …
Fight For Your Marriage: 4 Signs of Selfishness in a Marriage
It is so very evident that the core to most, if not all, sin is selfishness. And then we quickly discover that the greatest threat to our marriages is selfishness. Wow, and it took me repeating it twice to fully own that simple fact. Yup, it sure does. Why, because we don’t own the selfishness, …
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“Cuddle Up By the Light” Date Night
Since it has become colder, for some it's a downright deepfreeze, it's time to make some light together. Build a fire in the fireplace. Don’t have a fireplace? Light a whole bunch of candles in a grouping. Lay out a blanket and have an indoor picnic – or at least some popcorn. After your meal, …
Artificial Intimacy: Guest Author-Gary Thomas
Today we have guest author, Gary Thomas. He is a well-known Christian author on marriages, parenting, and relationships. His books are a must read for both Kerry and myself. Why do couples who are convinced they have found “the one” end up divorcing each other just a few years (or sometimes a couple decades) into …
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Guest Article: “7 ways couples can harm their marriage without even realizing it.” from Dave Willis
This week's guest post is from Dave Willis. Take time to not only read his post...own it! As I’ve interacted with couples from all over the world, I’ve found that many of the issues that ultimately lead to infidelity and divorce happen by accident. People don’t usually set out to sabotage their marriage and wind up …
Date Night: 5 Reminders for Every Couple to Remember
We have been sharing some date night ideas these past Wednesdays for couples to try and hopefully spur on more moments of communication and intimacy between a husband and wife. Just this past week I was asked if there were any reminders that we could share about "Date Nights" or even possibly guidelines to remember. That was …
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4 Signs of an Unhealthy Marriage
In the summer of 1985, an engineer named Roger Boisjoly noticed a flaw in the solid rocket booster that helps launch the space shuttle. The rubber O-rings that seal the joints were experiencing erosion particularly in cold weather. When the joints wear away, the booster leaks exhaust gas causing a dangerous mixture with the liquid …
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