I have met a few people who think marriage is easy. But those conversations are rare. Count-on-one-hand-and-still-have-fingers-left rare. Most people I meet who are willing to get vulnerable reveal something that tends to be more universal than unique -- marriage is hard. Worth it, yes. Rich with possibilities, yes. Designed by the Creator of the …
Adulterous Affairs Don’t Begin with Sleeping Together; They Begin with Inappropriate Friendships
It seems that far too often when a spouse becomes close to a member of the opposite sex, other than their spouse, it begins to place them on a slippery slope. In our years of counseling we have seen the results of what occurs when it was initially shared to a spouse, “We are just …
“Who are you serving?” Date Night
I realize that many of us are on a tight budget; however, we can all think of ways that we could bless another family or couple this Christmas season. Here is our idea this week. Plan a date time together that you can devote at least an hour of uninterrupted time together. Budget some money …
Fight For Your Marriage: 4 Signs of Selfishness in a Marriage
It is so very evident that the core to most, if not all, sin is selfishness. And then we quickly discover that the greatest threat to our marriages is selfishness. Wow, and it took me repeating it twice to fully own that simple fact. Yup, it sure does. Why, because we don’t own the selfishness, …
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How Are You Handling Your 24 Hours? Fatigue Driven or Spirit-Led?
I am so dependent on my calendar. Not only do I place the times and dates of my appointments in it, I also color code those appointments, so at a glance I can tell whether it is a ministry, a family, or a counseling appointment. What I sometimes neglect to remember is that the calendar …
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Artificial Intimacy: Guest Author-Gary Thomas
Today we have guest author, Gary Thomas. He is a well-known Christian author on marriages, parenting, and relationships. His books are a must read for both Kerry and myself. Why do couples who are convinced they have found “the one” end up divorcing each other just a few years (or sometimes a couple decades) into …
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4 Signs of an Unhealthy Marriage
In the summer of 1985, an engineer named Roger Boisjoly noticed a flaw in the solid rocket booster that helps launch the space shuttle. The rubber O-rings that seal the joints were experiencing erosion particularly in cold weather. When the joints wear away, the booster leaks exhaust gas causing a dangerous mixture with the liquid …
A Prayer for Your Spouse
This past weekend Kerry and I were up in Cloudcroft. I was blessed to bring the message to FBC Cloudcroft. My message was entitled, no surprise..."Redeeming the White Space." I closed with a prayer that I felt every husband and wife should be praying for each other daily. I had many requests for that prayer …
Whatcha Reading??
I enjoy reading and also love delving deeper with those who share the same passion and ideology as I do. You all know that I am big on Families: Marriages and Parenting. I am led to believe that if we as a church body train up parents to be Biblical Parents and train up Husbands …
No Rules by Age 17½
Here is article 2 of the 5 articles in the series by Jonathan McKee. “My kids need guidelines! What rules should I impose?” Not so fast. What good are guardrails if we don’t even know where the road is going? Yesterday I proposed that guardrails …
PURSUIT OF MARRIAGE 