Adulterous Affairs Don’t Begin with Sex; They Begin with Inappropriate Friendships

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” Romans 12:2                     It seems …

Communication Conference-POM

    Effective communication in your marriage is not just about saying and hearing words—it’s all about relaying ideas accurately with the intent of building a mutual understanding. When a husband and wife practice healthy habits for talking, listening, and processing together, it’s not only good for their marriage, but ultimately for the glory of God. …

Getting Back to Holy Sex: Visually Aroused by Our Wives

Husbands, when were you last aroused by the sight of someone other than your wife? If you’re normal and honest the answer if probably sometime in the last 24 hour to 72 hours. Understand this, I don’t mean the 13-year-old put-a-pillow-in-your-lap like when we were thirteen, but aroused none-the-less. God created us to be aroused …

Adulterous Affairs Don’t Begin with Sleeping Together

“Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming.”  Song of Songs 2:15 Adulterous Affairs Don’t Begin with Sleeping Together; they begin with inappropriate friendships. Friendship and emotional attachments with people of the opposite sex can spell danger for your marriage. This is where you …

Victim or Survivor?

Victim: Something destroyed; something completely sacrificed in the pursuit of an object or situation. Survivor: One who outlives another or a situation of conflict. In this world, it seems that we begin to classify ourselves as either a “Victim” or a “Survivor” of our past or current circumstances. It’s become easy to play the victim …

3 Keys for Your Boys in A Sex Saturated Culture

  The first time I saw a Playboy magazine, I was about 12 years old and hanging out at a friend’s house. My buddy had covertly collected a secret stash of magazines under his bed. He had gone to great lengths to acquire the contraband, and his bedroom stash became the stuff of legend among our …

What Tables Need To Be Overturned in Your House?

And Jesus entered the temple and drove out all who sold and bought in the temple, and He overturned the tables of the money-changers and the seats of those who sold pigeons. He said to them, “It is written, ‘My house shall be called a house of prayer,’ but you make it a den of …

The Top 10 from Redeeming The White Space

It has been an amazing year for us. We have been blessed to encounter and counsel many couples.  We have witnessed God’s hand in the healing and restoration of 9 couples. We have also been blessed to journey with many others as they chose to Redeem the White Space in their marriages and families. We …

Results from the Intimacy Poll

Well, the results are in. For the month of November we ran an intimacy poll to see where married couples fall into the frequency of sexual activity. We asked the following question: "Barring medical or reasons due to travel or distance, how often do you and your spouse have sex?" Kerry and I were amazed …