“Perfect Union” -Understanding God’s Gift of Sex in Marriage-

A Pursuit of Marriage Retreat: February 17-19, 2023 Join us on the weekend of February 17-19, 2023 at the Hyatt Place Uptown in Albuquerque, NM. Perfect Union will focus on God's design and purpose for sex in a marriage. We will discuss such topics as the "Orgasm Gap" that exists in marriage today as well …

Getting Back to Holy Sex: Visually Aroused by Our Wives

Husbands, when were you last aroused by the sight of someone other than your wife? If you’re normal and honest the answer if probably sometime in the last 24 hour to 72 hours. Understand this, I don’t mean the 13-year-old put-a-pillow-in-your-lap like when we were thirteen, but aroused none-the-less. God created us to be aroused …

Adulterous Affairs Don’t Begin with Sleeping Together

“Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming.”  Song of Songs 2:15 Adulterous Affairs Don’t Begin with Sleeping Together; they begin with inappropriate friendships. Friendship and emotional attachments with people of the opposite sex can spell danger for your marriage. This is where you …

Are You Married in Public?

“He has brought me to his banquet hall, And his banner over me is love.”  Song of Solomon 2:4 Here’s a question for you married folks…Is your love for one another evident to those around you? Better question, “Do strangers know you two are married?” Ok, before you quit reading and move on with life, …

Pulling Back the Curtain on Physical Intimacy

The past several Monday's have gone very fast and have, for a better word, exposed some of the honest truth about physical intimacy in a marriage. Comments we have received runs the spectrum: “Thank you for discussing a topic on marriage that churches seem to shy away from.”  “Appreciate your honesty and candor. This is …

What Makes an Orgasm So…

I’ve had some pretty amazing orgasms with my husband, and each time I am in awe of God. In awe that of all the ways He could show off His creativity, He would choose this. Oh my, what intense, profound, and whimsical depth of pleasure an orgasm is. Only you, God. Only you could come up with …

Top 10 Items for Your Bedroom

We received some very interesting comments from last Monday’s blog post-Sleep Naked with Your Spouse.  As an overall response, most felt that sleeping naked was too awkward and uncomfortable. O.K, Kerry and I agree that initially it can be uncomfortable and maybe, even make matters worse in your marriage. So, instead, we decided to invest …

Invest In Your Marriage

This week Kerry and I are in Ruidoso, NM. We rented a cabin for a few days during Kerry's Spring Break. It's a romantic cabin in the woods, fully equipped with a private deck, a fireplace, a kitchen and a king sized bed. Yup, it's just the two of us for the week. Time for …

Random Massage-Romance Towards Your Spouse

Put a die on their night table along with a card saying something like the following: Roll the die for a massage 1=Feet 2=Legs 3=Butt 4=Back 5=Shoulders 6=Your choice Modify as best for the two of you. Tell them that when they roll, you will massage. Have a great weekend!

Romancing Your Wife – 20 Ideas

It seems that during this crazy and fast paced life we all live as husband and wife, and especially as the years increase in our marriages, we forget to romance our spouses. We forget how we treated them when we were dating. They were all we could think of.  We spent many an hour coming …