“Oh, magnify the Lord with me, and let us exalt His Name together.” Psalm 34:3 This past summer, Kerry and I changed the name of our marriage ministry. We changed it to Pursuit of Marriage. This better describes what we see in scripture as well as our experiences of what marriage is about. It is …
Time Bomb of Sexual Abuse
“Sexual abuse places an emotional time-bomb in you. When and where it goes off is usually unpredictable. Time, circumstances and honesty will pull that trigger.” -Unknown Saturday evening, April 19, 2008. Joe was performing a wedding ceremony for a young couple that we had journeyed with through pre-marriage counseling. Joe had used Genesis 2:24-25 as …
Content or Disillusioned
“How I praise the Lord that you are concerned about me again. I know you have always been concerned for me, but you didn’t have the chance to help me. Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. I know how to live on …
Adulterous Affairs Don’t Begin with Sleeping Together
“Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming.” Song of Songs 2:15 Adulterous Affairs Don’t Begin with Sleeping Together; they begin with inappropriate friendships. Friendship and emotional attachments with people of the opposite sex can spell danger for your marriage. This is where you …
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Victim or Survivor?
Victim: Something destroyed; something completely sacrificed in the pursuit of an object or situation. Survivor: One who outlives another or a situation of conflict. In this world, it seems that we begin to classify ourselves as either a “Victim” or a “Survivor” of our past or current circumstances. It’s become easy to play the victim …
Are You Married in Public?
“He has brought me to his banquet hall, And his banner over me is love.” Song of Solomon 2:4 Here’s a question for you married folks…Is your love for one another evident to those around you? Better question, “Do strangers know you two are married?” Ok, before you quit reading and move on with life, …
5 Toxic Phrases to Immediately Remove from Your Marriage Vocabulary
You see it as a central theme in most television shows and movies: “Lack of Effective Communication.” Ya know what else, that could be the same theme for Marriages. Kerry and I facilitate to couples the benefits of effective communication; however, too often we both have learned that when it comes to communication, it’s not …
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Pulling Back the Curtain on Physical Intimacy
The past several Monday's have gone very fast and have, for a better word, exposed some of the honest truth about physical intimacy in a marriage. Comments we have received runs the spectrum: “Thank you for discussing a topic on marriage that churches seem to shy away from.” “Appreciate your honesty and candor. This is …
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A Prayer for Your Children
It was about 15 years ago that Kerry came across a “Daily Prayers for Your Children” article from Focus on the Family. Since then, she has made copy after copy for us. She has also implemented those daily prayers as a guide for the teachers at her school as they pray for their students. She …
5 Questions That Should Be Asked….
Kerry and I spent this past Saturday on a date night. Anyone that knows us well knows how much we advocate "Date Nights" for husbands and wives. This is a time to focus on one another and continue the pursuit of both romance and well as intimacy in your growing marriage. Yet, last week I …
PURSUIT OF MARRIAGE 