Wives, may I share a secret with you…a lot of who we are sexually is what we tell ourselves. We all have baggage from our lives. It’s very possible that your bags contain regret from premarital sex. Maybe they contain shame and guilt poured onto you from a parent. There could be heavy bags from sexual abuse that you endured for years, held close and not dealt with because of the pain. Or yet, your bags could be from a previous betrayal of an ex or an existing spouse. We open up those bags and “tell” ourselves that is who we are sexually and it can never change. Well, the lies in those bags need to be thrown away and allow Christ to begin to heal you.
God has every intention of blessing your marriage bed. God created sexual intimacy specifically to be shared between a husband and a wife. If you don’t believe that, read chapters 6 & 7 of Song of Solomon. Wives, it’s time you handed over your baggage to God and let Him heal you. If you are in Christ, you are a new creation, the old has passed away. Let’s start today by having God tell us who we are sexually. Spend time in prayer and ask for His guidance and wisdom. Grab a pen and paper and start writing about your sexuality as God sees it.
What do you think?
What do you feel?
What do you want?
What do you fear?
What do you want your sex life to look like?
What new messages do you need to begin to tell yourself?
What do you need to communicate to your husband?
Take time to really sit down and answer these questions. It’s important that you see yourself as God sees you…fearfully and wonderfully made. Seek first His Kingdom and everything else will fall into place.
Please don’t settle for less than God’s best for your sexuality.