Husbands, please listen carefully… I want to share with each of you what basic, simple actions you can do to show love to your wife every day. Love doesn’t mean five-star restaurants or tropical island getaways. It’s the simple things that matter most.
While dream vacations and life milestones are important, it’s the simple things you do to show your wife how much you love her. Husbands, show love and respect to your Bride every day, and remind her why you were the best choice she’s ever made.
I would like to share with you 10 basic tips for showing every day love to your Bride. These are tried, tested, and true.
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Introduce her with a compliment
Saying something like “I’d like you to meet my beautiful wife,” or “Here’s my better half” goes farther than you may realize. Publicly recognizing her as your cherished spouse and best friend validates that you love her.
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Embrace when you see her
At the end of a long day conquering life’s battles and keeping the kids from climbing walls, you could both use a loving hug. Make a point of showing you missed her and are glad to be reunited. Stop what you are doing, make eye contact with her and hold her. A big kiss doesn’t hurt, either.
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Ask her how you can help
If this is a new one for you, she may think there’s a catch. With a sincere willingness to give a helping hand, ask how you can lift her burden and serve her. This gesture applies to more than yard work, but being in tune with her needs emotionally and spiritually, as well. Start becoming a student of your wife. Watch, listen and learn. Sometimes she just needs a listening ear.
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Let her pick the movie
Or, if you’re playing games, let her choose. She needs to know her opinion counts in your marriage. Taking turns with these simple choices makes it easier to compromise on the bigger choices together.
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Forgive her fast
She forgot to put away the laundry, or accidentally broke your TV remote. So, she’s human, after all? With all that she does right, let it go when she makes mistakes. Ask yourself, is this conflict worth our relationship? After all, you’re no perfection yourself!
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Hold her hand in public
Some women are less inclined to public displays, but when appropriate, reach out and squeeze her hand. With the reassurance you’re proud she’s yours, she’ll walk a little taller, and smile a little bigger. Hold her hand when you pray. And hold her hand even when you are both in a fight. Holding her hand no matter what the situation speaks volumes to her heart.
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Write her love letters
You don’t have to be Shakespeare; the thought matters most here. Focus on specific things you love about her; the wrinkle in her nose when she laughs or how she finds joy in the little things. You can hide it in her makeup bag, under her pillow, or somewhere else she’ll discover it. She’ll be happily surprised and treasure your words for years to come.
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Open the door for her
Chivalry is not dead. Opening the door is a gentlemanly way to take care of your lady. She likely grew up wanting to be a princess. Be her prince!
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Carve out time for consistent date night
In an on-the-go digital world, it’s easy to get caught up in the minutia of kids, work, community, extended family and even church responsibilities. Set aside a weekly special night just for the two of you. It doesn’t need to be costly or extravagant. Just make an effort to court her, as you did when you were dating.
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Let her fly
As her partner for life, you are in the best position to help her reach her dreams.Dream for her as you pray for her. Words of encouragement are stronger than words of praise.
Husbands, begin by implementing one or two of these this week and then keep building on these actions until these all become a habit in your marriage. I can truly guarantee you that your Bride will appreciate it and your marriage will be blessed.
Joe
PURSUIT OF MARRIAGE 