What is happening to my precious baby??

It seems that as of recently I have been asked about what is happening with these children of the ages 2-4. They seem unruly, out of control, without manners, and totally disrespectful.  You know what my answer is…”Yes.”
I love the way John Rosemond describes and directs this mother who feels that her child is uncontrollable.


Here is the article. Hope this helps…

Question: When I ask him to do something, my 2-year-old screams “No!” and then swings at me. When he hits me, I firmly reprimand him and try to put him in time-out, but that only makes matters worse. I’ve tried ignoring his screaming, but that doesn’t work. What should I do?

Answer: He must be your first child. Or, your first child was the one child in a hundred who wasn’t a “terrible” two. In either case, it’s behavior of the sort you describe — illogical, irrational, violent—that has given this age child such a bad reputation. It’s also why one of my graduate school psychology professors maintained that toddlers were psychotic.

Stories of this sort also belie the romantic notion that human nature is fundamentally good. I’ll just bet your son has never seen anyone haul off and hit someone. Nonetheless, he tries to hit you. That’s because the tendency toward violence when he doesn’t get his way is in his DNA. It’s why God made sure that human children, unlike the offspring of other species, do not grow to full size in one or two years.

I could have told you that time-out wasn’t going to work. It works on the aforementioned one toddler in a hundred. And as for ignoring this sort of behavior, I don’t know anyone who has that sort of fortitude. Besides, the terrible 2-year-old won’t tolerate being ignored. It drives him into a frenzy.

But I have the solution. At least, it’s worked for numerous other parents of equally psychotic toddlers. Cut his bedroom door in half. Re-hang the lower half, creating a “Dutch” door. Oh, and just to be “safe,” turn the lock around. When your son screams, attempts to hit, or begins to show any other symptoms of imminent psychosis, pick him up, put him in his room, close the half-door, and lock it. Then walk away. Let him vent for as long as he needs to vent in order to realize that his bedroom is now his venting place — his only venting place. When he is calm, or reasonably so, go back, unlock the door, pull it open, and walk away. Don’t say things like “Are you ready to be good?” or anything equally counterproductive. Act as if nothing has happened between picking him up and opening his door.

The key to the success of this tried-and-true method is to get him to his room as quickly as possible after an episode begins. In fact, if you even see him warming up to an episode, take him to his room. Do this for two weeks. If my experience serves me well, that’s how long it will take for him to begin “getting it.”

Two more things: First, keep it simple. When it comes to giving instructions to your son, don’t ask; tell. There’s a world of difference between “It’s time for you to pick up your toys” and “How about being a good boy and picking these toys up for Mommy, okay?” Toddlers respond much more cooperatively to declarations that they do requests. Second, make it easy. Don’t give a toddler more than two toys to play with at once. That simplifies the job of picking them up, and makes screaming a lot less likely.

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