Effective communication in your marriage is not just about saying and hearing words—it’s all about relaying ideas accurately with the intent of building a mutual understanding. When a husband and wife practice healthy habits for talking, listening, and processing together, it’s not only good for their marriage, but ultimately for the glory of God. …
Getting Back to Holy Sex: Visually Aroused by Our Wives
Husbands, when were you last aroused by the sight of someone other than your wife? If you’re normal and honest the answer if probably sometime in the last 24 hour to 72 hours. Understand this, I don’t mean the 13-year-old put-a-pillow-in-your-lap like when we were thirteen, but aroused none-the-less. God created us to be aroused …
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A Necessary “No”
For the past 10 weeks in our Marriage/Family Bible Study Class on Sundays we have been focused on the verse 3 John 1:2. With this verse, we have been asking ourselves, “How’s Your Soul?” Each week has been a different facet of “How’s Your Soul?” and what that looks like according to God’s Word and …
Beauty for Ashes
On Friday, September 29th, I was asked to speak for the women at our church for their Fall Celebration Dinner. I was asked to share how I exchanged Beauty for Ashes. So, I wanted …
Time Bomb of Sexual Abuse
“Sexual abuse places an emotional time-bomb in you. When and where it goes off is usually unpredictable. Time, circumstances and honesty will pull that trigger.” -Unknown Saturday evening, April 19, 2008. Joe was performing a wedding ceremony for a young couple that we had journeyed with through pre-marriage counseling. Joe had used Genesis 2:24-25 as …
Content or Disillusioned
“How I praise the Lord that you are concerned about me again. I know you have always been concerned for me, but you didn’t have the chance to help me. Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. I know how to live on …
Adulterous Affairs Don’t Begin with Sleeping Together
“Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming.” Song of Songs 2:15 Adulterous Affairs Don’t Begin with Sleeping Together; they begin with inappropriate friendships. Friendship and emotional attachments with people of the opposite sex can spell danger for your marriage. This is where you …
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Victim or Survivor?
Victim: Something destroyed; something completely sacrificed in the pursuit of an object or situation. Survivor: One who outlives another or a situation of conflict. In this world, it seems that we begin to classify ourselves as either a “Victim” or a “Survivor” of our past or current circumstances. It’s become easy to play the victim …
Are You Married in Public?
“He has brought me to his banquet hall, And his banner over me is love.” Song of Solomon 2:4 Here’s a question for you married folks…Is your love for one another evident to those around you? Better question, “Do strangers know you two are married?” Ok, before you quit reading and move on with life, …
5 Toxic Phrases to Immediately Remove from Your Marriage Vocabulary
You see it as a central theme in most television shows and movies: “Lack of Effective Communication.” Ya know what else, that could be the same theme for Marriages. Kerry and I facilitate to couples the benefits of effective communication; however, too often we both have learned that when it comes to communication, it’s not …
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